This is the time for New Year’s resolutions. Many are made without a clear intention to keep them. In recovery you can make some powerful commitments to help you throughout the year.
1. Become accountable to someone this year.
If you really want to strengthen your recovery this year I suggest you find a person with whom you can be accountable. What does it mean to be accountable?
- First, you have to be willing to be honest with the person.
- Second, you need to respect the person enough to accept their advice.
- Third, you need to be willing to open up to them.
2. Establish a firm connection to a support group.
If you are attending a 12-Step group, decide on a home group. This makes you part of something. You can count on the regulars and they can count on you. It provides opportunity to get to know others who are successful in staying clean and sober.
For those who have selected alternative support groups or support systems. Make a commitment to regular consistent involvement. The same virtues of belonging and others connecting with you is an important added benefit.
3. Develop sober friends
There is a strange phenomenon when you start into recovery. Those people you considered friends, the ones you got drunk or high with again and again, they seem to have little or no interest in being your friend if you REALLY mean to stay clean and sober.
You need friends. It is not good for you to try recovery in isolation. Take time to get acquainted with others who are making it successfully in recovery. Try participating in other types of events, maybe church, civic groups, or some of the 12-Step social events.
4. Treat others like you want to be treated
It is easy to play the role of victim or get caught up in anger toward others, but it is important to realize it may have taken others a lot of forgiving to deal with our addiction.
It is a benefit to find in our recovery the opportunity to forgive others. Taking the time to reflect on how we want to be treated and find a way to act that way toward others. It is a simple principle that takes a lifetime to master. Take it as a challenge this year.
5. Never stop working your recovery
I have said addicts do not really have a stopping problem they have a starting problem. Stopping happens when we run out of our chemicals, money or opportunity. We stop when things get going tough. The problem is we start using again.
Once you have a recovery going, never let it stop. Keep working toward your goals and you will find a path through whatever situation you are in. I do not care how many times you think you have failed, this time can be the time of your lasting recovery. Make it happen today. You can make recovery happen this New Years with these 5 resolutions for recovery.
Written by Wendell Montney